Iâ€™m currently in a relationship with my boyfriend of two years. I still love him, but lately Iâ€™ve had my eye on someone else. I donâ€™t know what to do. Iâ€™m really confused. I donâ€™t want to hurt anyone. What should I do?
â€“TORN BETWEEN TWO
Dear Torn Between Two,
Two years is a long time to be in love with someone, especially in high school. You already know you canâ€™t have them both; you need to choose. But you also shouldnâ€™t make any decision without thinking it through. Itâ€™s important that you realize the pros and cons of both options. Chances are the attraction youâ€™re feeling towards this â€œnewâ€ person is nothing serious. It isnâ€™t uncommon to be with someone for a long time and feel attracted in some way to another person. Newness is exciting, but typically, the attraction is meaningless.
In order to avoid regret, be sure to make your decision wisely. Think back to everything youâ€™ve been through with him. Is putting an end to everything worth it? If you love him, probably not. You shouldnâ€™t dwell on your decision for too long, though, because it isnâ€™t fair to your boyfriend.
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